My main point was reeling back from that situation and taking back the power that I had given him over me. Well, you can pay attention to other things about him. But I want to regain my dignity , not to cling and to need. So please, join the forum and let people assist you. I know I have not made any contact with my ex in a month we have children together and he thought that that would keep me around and he found that I am very stubborn. I feel the confusion etc …is it me? He drinks alot,smokes alot of pot, drives like a maniac.
He used my past against me. There are many people who do not understand fully what these issues are. I have done research and I believe I was the victim of an emotionally abusive woman or a narcissist. I guess he expected me to get all upset and send him an emotional email. M October 24, 2017 Thanks so much for this.
After all, a Narcissist is relentless when it comes to securing his sources, and he will often use all kinds of manipulative behavior to suck you back in to the relationship. And I feel sorry for this woman he is now living with. In the second dream I saw his feet clothed in pitch black socks. I completely fell for it. I go to his house on a Thursday or Friday and spend the whole weekend.
And now the girlfriend drives around in his Mercedes convertible looking smug and presumably people think how much happier he is than when he was with boring old me. I have only contacted him once since then. Hi I have been Narco free for 8 weeks now. This hurt my feelings for a long time and I just couldn't figure out what I did wrong, especially since after all those years being her friend and her telling me that I'd always be welcome because I was family. I know you well enough to know what you want and respect it. You know, where I pop in and out of your life like nothing ever happened, you stroke my ego, and I get to cause more havoc and destruction all while looking for my next victim. I have fallen to sleep crying next to him on countless nights because I feel so unloved, and he just falls asleep, like nothing is wrong.
September 13, 2014 Hi Stephanie, absolutely you have been to hell and back. It was on my birthday. One occasion he gifted me a crystal diamond paperweight. That led to another fight and separation. In fact, anyone who has taken a back can attest to these cycles of abuse! I'm his second wife and I'm certain there will be many more. He has lost his respect in the workplace and has been revealed for the person he is. You can tell everyone how cruel they are, and you're going to come off as crazy and prove the narcissist right.
Year ago +4 sros6 I couldn't have said this better. Staying friends with an ex: Sex and dark personality traits predict motivations for post-relationship friendship. Privacy: Also, we hate spam as much as you do, and your privacy is very important to us. If you enjoyed this video, please subscribe to my channel! She is not supposed to have someone else living there as the Govt is supporting her to live in that house. I was his soul mate the one etc then again after a petty argument he told me it was over yet again…he would also give the silent treatment after argumemts no matter how much i tried to sort them or say how sorry i was. And i was so sad,. I do have a chilling memory of walking into our office one morning and the shark-like stare prior to his chipping away at my high spirits and leaving me a wreck.
It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration. Try dealing with that for years. I caught him many times on lies, promises he would not hold. The thing that I settled on, with myself, is that my expressions of love were honest and giving, and that comforts me now. I took beatings from this guy just to save my marriage…! He was very, very, very good at making you feel of all sort of good feeling in this world…. However, your blogs have helped this morning…positive reinforcement is a great help; though I wish I could just forget the whole last five years and be fully rid of my feelings and memories, and her control over me….
Lying to my best friend was so stressful! We never touched and we never had sex and the whole thing was confusing. Charlene September 11, 2014 Oh, Sharnee, how is all this making you feel? I was sitting in the living room when he came in; he put the rent check, some cash and the key to the car he took and brought back for me to use on the coffee table. He ignores every single thing I say, despite there being issues that need to be resolved. He only ever worked 27 hours a week, while I worked over 50. And work a lot in your selflove,selfworth,deserving etcétera Do a lot of selfcare daily! Always in your best interest!! Fear of the unknown is crippling, but when we step into the light and begin a new journey down a healthier path, the universe will help pave the way. He was high functioning - until he wasn't. From experience, I can totally agree.
What if your ex is a narcissist? He constantly had to be the center of attention, and loved to hear himself talk to the point that other people wished he would shut up. However, if I never love again, the kindness the man showed me when he was Mr. And as far as staying no contact, as soon as I stopped contact I started working out like crazy!!!! All of our stories are alike. When he is upset, just to calm him down and to show him how much he means to me and how much I want to give him a smile, I delivered chocolates at his doorsetp, same day I then delivered flowers, same day I sent him e-card, same day I sent him the sweetest message. I worked with her extensively to keep her happy and in control of her finances.
He log on to different netdatingsites. Today I struggled with self-worth as a part of me feels unworthy that the narcissists words would actually be true with somebody like me? When I got to the chapter about people who were narcissistic, the author listed all the personality attributes that had been confounding me about my ex. So, while I cannot dictate to you what will work best, I can encourage you to stop beating yourself up for the choices that you made. Kathy September 12, 2014 Melanie, thanks for addressing this topic since the Ns do tend to return during the process of healing and retard the progress made to date. God will save you from ever feeling unworthy from this creep. Right now, she or he has places to go and fresh supply to feed upon, but somewhere down the road, at her or his convenience and leisure, they might want to double, triple or quadruple dip back into your supply. Perhaps it was a lesson I had to learn.